Caring Hearts Ministry Our ministry to those who have had loss through miscarriage or stillbirth.

In our struggles with our grief, it may be hard for us to:

   ° Cope with feelings of guilt, anger, and jealously
   ° Sharing family celebrations
   ° Needing to make major decisions
   ° Seeing babies/children the same age our child would have been
   ° Understanding our many emotions and feeling emotionally balanced
   ° Feeling different and subsequently feeling isolated
   ° Dealing with physical symptoms that arise due to grieving
   ° Deciding what to do with our baby’s belongings
   ° Dealing with normal daily functions due to lack of energy

Things NOT to say:

   ° You’ll have another baby
   ° It was just a miscarriage- it’s better because you didn’t feel the baby move
   ° The baby was probably deformed
   ° The baby is in a better place
   ° You exercised too much- maybe you didn’t eat enough beef , pork, etc.
   ° You shouldn’t be angry
   ° God may be punishing you
   ° You need to get over this. You have felt this way too long
   ° Is there sin in your life?
   ° I know just how you feel.(even though you have never had a miscarriage, stillbirth)
   ° There are others whose sufferings are worse
   ° In time you’ll forget
   ° You’ll grow from this
   ° Don’t talk of God’s character of Goodness (it doesn’t “feel” good)

Things to do or say:

   ° Visit them-bring them a gift: Ballons, a meal, flowers to plant, keep their children
   ° Send a memorial in memory of the child
   ° Let them talk-be a good listener/hugger/compassionate
   ° Go with her to do errands or grocery shopping (it’s hard to face the world when
      emotions fall apart without warning)
   ° Be prepared for her to cry
   ° Ask if they named the baby-refer to them by name
   ° Mark the date on your calendar-and send a card on the due date or 1 year
      anniversary